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isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/my-to-do-list</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 30 Jun 2026 13:02:19 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!O_x2!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F55eec3c7-f9d1-4ec2-a044-bda2c6e55037_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!O_x2!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F55eec3c7-f9d1-4ec2-a044-bda2c6e55037_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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&#9;a) Everyone
&#9;b) Myself

That&#8217;s it.

I never get to b).

Maybe they need collapsing.</pre></div><p></p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>This poem began with a remark by Andrea Gibson from &#8220;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtSq0tILlII">How Cancer Transformed My Crushing Anxiety Into Boundless Bliss</a>&#8221;: &#8220;I got nothing on my to-do list but to know how to die with an open heart.&#8230;&#8221; I loved the aspiration. If only I could keep it to that one thing.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/my-to-do-list?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/my-to-do-list?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/my-to-do-list/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/my-to-do-list/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #35, Challenge Day #26</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Surprised by Joy]]></title><description><![CDATA[It's been a good ride.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2026 13:03:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YGCy!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd3db2704-163d-4389-8366-03fe0e396b0e_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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I&#8217;ve meditated only on loving-kindness
for myself
all week.

It&#8217;s a slog.
Solipsism shouldn&#8217;t be so intentional.

Then tonight,
I&#8217;m sitting in the meditation hall,
waiting on the meeting to start.

Looking down at the cabling
running from the speaker&#8217;s laptop 
to the PA system,
joy arrives.

No particular epiphanies
or good fortunes.

Just this sense that all is okay.

Even though so much is a mess,
somehow, it&#8217;s also okay.

It takes me back
to leaving Barcelona.

As we shuttle across the tarmac to board,
I imagine the airplane going down
over the Mediterranean.

In this daydream,
I turn to Leila and simply say,
&#8220;It&#8217;s been a good ride.&#8221;

Just that.

And I meant it.

And that

shocked me.

No bargaining.
No regrets.

Just
&#8220;It&#8217;s been a good ride.&#8221;

Joy unbidden.
Even in disaster.</pre></div><div><hr></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><blockquote><p>The title borrows from C.S. Lewis, who described joy as something that arrives uninvited and can't be summoned. I haven't actually read that particular book. But I think he got that part right.<br><br>A Zen saying captures the other part: "Enlightenment is an accident. Practice makes you accident-prone."</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/surprised-by-joy/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #34, Challenge Day #84</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Confessions, Book VIII]]></title><description><![CDATA[But not yet.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2026 13:04:08 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!rd19!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F1f743dcb-acae-4085-aaee-c8779a2bb787_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text"><em>Don't believe in excess
Success is to give
Don't believe in riches
But you should see where I live</em>
&#8212; U2, &#8220;God Part II&#8221;


&#8220;Believe in yourself.
You don&#8217;t need to change anything.
Your body is perfect the way it is.
And, anyway, beauty is a construct.&#8221;

I tell this to my kid,
mostly believing it.

Praying their pronouns
don&#8217;t reflect a shift from
<em>Why would anybody hate their body?</em>
to hating their body.

Also praying
they don&#8217;t notice
my

shots,
supplements,
skin cream,
smart scale,
infrared devices,
gym,
sauna,
cold plunges,
carb aversion,
step counting.

My embarrassment,
especially as a man.

Lord, help me accept
old age, sickness and death,

but not yet.</pre></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/confessions-book-viii/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #33, Challenge Day #36</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Cat Leaves Yelp Review]]></title><description><![CDATA[I can see metal.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/cat-leaves-yelp-review</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/cat-leaves-yelp-review</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 23 Jun 2026 13:03:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!5Ya_!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fcf2aa3b1-336f-4a4f-aba3-212eb79664e9_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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1 star. 
Terrible.
Just terrible.
Yes, the food is good.
The humans are affectionate.
But you seem like more of an outdoor cat.
You don&#8217;t want to come here.
This house is full.

*UPDATED:* 
Bowl refilled.
Plus a treat
and a head rub.
They deserve 4 stars.
Not 5.
Don&#8217;t want this to go to their heads.

*UPDATED:*
Bowl empty again.
I mean, there&#8217;s food.
But I can see metal.
And who knows how long
those dregs have been there?
Don&#8217;t I deserve fresh?
I WILL starve to death.
I know it. I just know it.
It&#8217;s only a matter of time.
1 star. Again.

*UPDATED:*
They did not love it.
They kicked me out of our bedroom.
And CLOSED THE DOOR!
In MY house!
The insolence!
No door should ever be closed to me.
1 star.

*UPDATED:*
Awwww!
Look at them.
Sound asleep.
So sweet.
I must make the biscuits
on their tummy
at 2 a.m.
They&#8217;ll love it!
4 stars.

*UPDATED:*
No!
Bad human.
I did not want my belly rubbed
for longer than 2.73 seconds.
Idiot.
1 star.

&#8212;&#8212; Original &#8212;&#8212;
These people are okay.
They feed me.
Their laps are warm.
Sometimes, they know just where to scratch.
But I overheard them claim
they were my &#8220;owners.&#8221;
How archaic!
Like, read a book.
But I get nice sunny places to lie.
Long hours of peace when they&#8217;re at work.
Keyboards to step on when they work from home.
So, not bad.
3 stars.</pre></div><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>Management disputes several factual claims.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #32, Challenge Day #102</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[How Could I Freeze Like That?]]></title><description><![CDATA[She asked. I froze. Let me try again.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/how-could-i-freeze-like-that</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/how-could-i-freeze-like-that</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2026 17:18:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/f55dc297-5743-481c-8f86-18aaff591796_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="native-video-embed" data-component-name="VideoPlaceholder" data-attrs="{&quot;mediaUploadId&quot;:&quot;8cd37f06-9172-4029-a6d3-b8dfeb65951f&quot;,&quot;duration&quot;:null}"></div><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">When you asked
&#8220;Do you love me?
Why?&#8221;

There is so much I didn&#8217;t say.
Pretty much all of it.

How could I freeze like that?
Offer a lame
&#8220;Yes, you know I do&#8221;?

Especially when it&#8217;s a
recurring question.

Maybe I don&#8217;t believe you&#8217;re asking seriously.
Maybe I&#8217;m ashamed you have to ask.

Of course, I love you.
I am not whole without you.

I try to convey this
in vague generalities.

So let me try again.

I love

The way toddler you would run up
to any stranger and give them
the warmest hug.

The way you still say
&#8220;that&#8217;s mean&#8221;
if your mom or I get snarky
about anyone.

The way you sit down next to the kid
sitting alone 
and invite your popular friends
to join.

The Dadaesque sense of humor
behind &#8220;potato sandwich,&#8221;
and your other so-called jokes.

The confidence of 
&#8220;I can do that,&#8221;

whether that&#8217;s
kindergartener you
taking the violin from the teacher
the first time you saw it

or writing a song
after hearing David Bowie

or making a short film on your iPad
after watching Miyazaki.

You absolutely can&#8217;t do that,
but you try.

The way seven-year-old you
sincerely, na&#239;vely, wisely
asked your pastor mamaw,
&#8220;How do we know we haven&#8217;t
made it all up?&#8221;

There&#8217;s so much.
It&#8217;s all of these things.
And it&#8217;s none of them.

I love the you-ness of
Rosemary June Leila Regan-Porter.

It&#8217;s always changing,
always surprising,
sometimes frustrating.

I hope you read this
someday.

I don&#8217;t know that my praise
will get better,
more specific.

I hope you know
even so

my love will always
be right here
wherever you are
whoever you become.</pre></div><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>I did get to read this to Rose last week when they were at a low point. About a quarter of the way through: &#8220;I don&#8217;t get poetry.&#8221;</p><p>At the end, a spontaneous hug.</p><p>That alone makes this whole project worth it.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #31, Challenge Day #100</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Little Attention, Please]]></title><description><![CDATA[For just a moment.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/a-little-attention-please</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/a-little-attention-please</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 18 Jun 2026 13:04:04 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L-7x!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff69854d4-02b3-4607-bd03-dbce2d3f9acc_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p></p><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">I&#8217;m speed walking across the diagonal intersection,
one earbud in,
rushing to beat the signal
and get to my D.C. hotel to check out.

The man on the street corner
starts talking.
I&#8217;m checked out.
It doesn&#8217;t fully register
until I&#8217;m past him.

I&#8217;m not sure it&#8217;s to me.
But I know.

And I&#8217;m thankful for the cover of the earbud.

Now I&#8217;m batting away the familiar harangues.

&#8220;I didn&#8217;t notice.&#8221;
&#8220;I didn&#8217;t have cash anyway.&#8221;
&#8220;I don&#8217;t want to enable.&#8221;

What I know deeper down
is that I didn&#8217;t even
acknowledge his existence.

Not with a word.
Not with a glance.

And it felt

amiss.

For all the complexities and rationales,
what I notice is
my actions led away from ease
and created dis-ease.

I&#8217;m tempted to turn around
just to say I see you but can&#8217;t help
but keep walking.

A couple hours later,
I brought the extra bottle of water from the hotel
that I almost left.
I hoped I&#8217;d run into him
or someone who could use it.

He&#8217;s still at the same corner.

Baking in 90-degree heat.

This time,
I make eye contact.

He asks for money.
I say I have none,
but would he like a bottle of water.

&#8220;Oh, God, yes!&#8221;
Reaching,
he apologizes for his essential tremor
and gives me the most sincere
thank you I think I&#8217;ve ever heard.

And then stops me as I&#8217;m walking away
to make sure I know he means it.

I haven&#8217;t solved anything, but

his steps seem lighter
and my steps are lighter.

For just a moment.</pre></div><div><hr></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #30, Challenge Day #82</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sit Down. Be Humble.]]></title><description><![CDATA[The mind is a funny place.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/sit-down-be-humble</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/sit-down-be-humble</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 16 Jun 2026 13:03:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!VbDi!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F3df58ca0-6542-414f-aa57-0c5960a64931_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!VbDi!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F3df58ca0-6542-414f-aa57-0c5960a64931_1456x1048.jpeg" 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stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">I&#8217;m sitting with a group 
learning to facilitate meditation.

My turn hasn&#8217;t even ended
and I see it.

I want the teacher to recognize my skills.
I want to be the best.
I want to win.

I just have to laugh.

It&#8217;s like I&#8217;ve entered 
a humility contest.

For the bragging rights.</pre></div><div id="tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd" class="tiktok-wrap outer" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold/video/7461363493615193377&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&#127908;&#10024; Throwback to when @kellyclarkson owned the 2018 Billboard Music Awards stage with a &#128293; medley of hits from Imagine Dragons, Ed Sheeran, Khalid, and more! &#127926; Who else remembers this epic performance? &#128588; #KellyClarkson #BBMAs2018 #MusicMedley &#127909;: @BBMAs &quot;,&quot;thumbnail_url&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/cf7ecd48-2071-4c70-b25e-efa3e81e3003_1186x1701.jpeg&quot;,&quot;author&quot;:&quot;Voices of Gold&quot;,&quot;embed_url&quot;:&quot;https://iframely.net/api/iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd&quot;,&quot;author_url&quot;:&quot;https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold&quot;,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false}" data-component-name="TikTokCreateTikTokEmbed"><iframe id="iframe-tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd" class="tiktok-iframe" src="https://iframely.net/api/iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd" frameborder="0" allow="autoplay; fullscreen; encrypted-media" allowfullscreen="" scrolling="no"></iframe><iframe src="https://team-hosted-public.s3.amazonaws.com/set-then-check-cookie.html" id="third-party-iframe-tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd" class="third-party-cookie-check-iframe" style="display: none;"></iframe><div class="tiktok-wrap static" data-component-name="TikTokCreateStaticTikTokEmbed"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold/video/7461363493615193377" target="_blank"><img class="tiktok thumbnail" src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!DFXT!,w_640,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fcf7ecd48-2071-4c70-b25e-efa3e81e3003_1186x1701.jpeg" style="background-image: url(https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!DFXT!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fcf7ecd48-2071-4c70-b25e-efa3e81e3003_1186x1701.jpeg);"></a><div class="content"><a class="author" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold" target="_blank">@voicesofgold</a><a class="title" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold/video/7461363493615193377" target="_blank">&#127908;&#10024; Throwback to when @kellyclarkson owned the 2018 Billboard Music Awards stage with a &#128293; medley of hits from Imagine Dragons, Ed Sheeran, Khalid, and more! &#127926; Who else remembers this epic performance? &#128588; #KellyClarkson #BBMAs2018 #MusicMedley &#127909;: @BBMAs </a></div></div><div class="fallback-failure" id="fallback-failure-tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7461363493615193377%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd"><div class="error-content"><img class="error-icon" src="https://substackcdn.com//img/alert-circle.svg">Tiktok failed to load.<br><br>Enable 3rd party cookies or use another browser</div></div></div><blockquote><p>One of the gifts of mindfulness practice is that eventually the mind stops hiding what it&#8217;s up to.</p><p>Not that it stops doing it.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #29, Challenge Day #86</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Do What Your Brave Is]]></title><description><![CDATA[What does that even mean?]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/do-what-your-brave-is</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/do-what-your-brave-is</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 14 Jun 2026 13:03:20 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/109ee38e-1cb9-439b-bf12-957242e84bea_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="native-video-embed" data-component-name="VideoPlaceholder" data-attrs="{&quot;mediaUploadId&quot;:&quot;a30fc848-559c-49c3-a4c9-511691de556b&quot;,&quot;duration&quot;:null}"></div><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">As Rose turns 13,
I stumble across a video
they secretly recorded on my phone 
when they were five.

&#8220;At nighttime, Mommy and Daddy
send all of my videos and my singing
to all of you. So I hope you enjoy it.
If you see me singing about braveness, 
and it&#8217;s really long and it&#8217;s a little dark,
that&#8217;s really me telling you what you can do
to do what your brave is.
So you have to watch that one
and you have to show that to other people, ok,
even other kids.&#8221;

When I show it to Rose now:

&#8220;What does that even mean?&#8221;

How quickly we abandon
our childhoods.

I spent most of my youth
running away from mine,
rushing to grow up.

Never wanting to appear
silly or frivolous or na&#239;ve.

At 10, sitting at my grandma&#8217;s kitchen table,
writing a letter of campaign advice
to President Carter
after Kennedy&#8217;s DNC scare.

At 12, reading business and church growth books
from my dad&#8217;s bookshelves.

At 14, writing a paper
on the works of Arthur Miller
like I had a clue.

At 16, as president of FBLA,
taking over a local mini-golf course business
like a little Alex P. Keaton.

By 17, deep into existentialists &#8212;
Kierkegaard, Sartre, Rimbaud.

Ready to rule the world
or some little corner of it.

And then I spent decades
trying to recapture 
the youth
I abandoned.

I&#8217;m still recapturing.

It takes a long time.
It&#8217;s a little dark.
And it calls for me
to do what my brave is.</pre></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODEyMjA2NjAsImV4cCI6MTc4MzgxMjY2MCwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.6bY_z0AIKkYce_JIp1LuYGF2JfhKV0OI-X_4OdsFi1U"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #28, Challenge Day #81</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Artificial / Human]]></title><description><![CDATA[What&#8217;s so human about us?]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/artificial-human</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/artificial-human</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2026 23:35:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!35yR!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F92111e68-0a48-44be-906f-a7f639ab3674_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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candidate?<br>Lack of knowledge never silences them, either.</p><p>I wonder:</p><p>What&#8217;s so artificial about A.I.?<br>What&#8217;s so human about us?</p><p>I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s the intelligence.<br>It&#8217;s what&#8217;s missing from the machines:</p><p>The questions.<br>The &#8220;I don&#8217;t know.&#8221;<br>The ability to sit in silence<br>and still go somewhere.<br>Having your heart broken<br>and then, maybe, picking up the pieces.<br>The illogic of relationships,<br>of sacrifice.</p><p>I&#8217;ve spent too long<br>idolizing the wrong things.</p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>Photo: Mind map from a group songwriting session at Over the Rhine&#8217;s songwriting retreat, March 2026.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" 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Frames.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/lost-in-ikea</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/lost-in-ikea</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 09 Jun 2026 13:02:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!FrCm!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fac0220e5-357c-4584-af1e-2b91d0de1a6a_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!FrCm!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fac0220e5-357c-4584-af1e-2b91d0de1a6a_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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&#8220;Frames.&#8221;

&#8220;Where&#8217;s that?&#8221;

&#8220;I don&#8217;t know. Just follow the arrows.&#8221;

</em>
You can&#8217;t get lost.

Just don&#8217;t take the early exit.</pre></div><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODA5NzI4NjIsImV4cCI6MTc4MzU2NDg2MiwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.ho9BEmKluwF-Js2cBWCRo42t33YmKtLXARtZLGKBLpQ&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email&amp;utm_content=share&amp;action=share&amp;token=eyJ1c2VyX2lkIjo0MTU0MDQxNiwicG9zdF9pZCI6MjAwOTUxODIxLCJpYXQiOjE3ODA5NzI4NjIsImV4cCI6MTc4MzU2NDg2MiwiaXNzIjoicHViLTU3NDUzMzciLCJzdWIiOiJwb3N0LXJlYWN0aW9uIn0.ho9BEmKluwF-Js2cBWCRo42t33YmKtLXARtZLGKBLpQ"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:&quot;button-wrapper&quot;}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary button-wrapper" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #26, Challenge Day #55</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Naming Things]]></title><description><![CDATA[We only get a few sweet days.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/naming-things</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 07 Jun 2026 13:03:19 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!-37h!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F14090026-0b2c-4d78-9035-32a22bdf5396_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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Insulted?<br>Constricted? Liberated?</p><p>Haven&#8217;t we all felt each of those<br>when others have named us?</p><p>It seems everyone I know<br>at some point in their lives<br>went by another name,</p><p>a middle name, a nickname,<br>or something invented<br>out of whole cloth.</p><p>Something that says,</p><p>&#8220;I&#8217;m not who you think I am.&#8221;</p><p>Or</p><p>&#8220;I&#8217;m a new person.&#8221;</p><p>Or just</p><p>&#8220;Let&#8217;s try this one on.&#8221;</p><p>Maybe that&#8217;s why Mercurius<br>chose Pope John II in 533 A.D.,<br>the first but not the last.</p><p>We want to break the confines<br>imposed by others.</p><p>We want them to truly see us.</p><p>And maybe their naming<br>is more than presumption.</p><p>Maybe it&#8217;s</p><p>&#8220;Oh, wow.<br>I want to remember this.<br>I want to remember <em>you</em>.&#8221;</p><p>You&#8217;re cute.<br>I&#8217;m going to name you.</p><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">  </pre></div><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text"><em>     All we have is a few sweet days</em>
     <em>and naming.</em>
     <em>White pine, blackthorn, </em>
     <em>briar</em>
     <em>&#8212;Joseph Fasano, &#8220;Poetry&#8221;</em></pre></div><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!V2IE!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9c0ad105-cd99-46d3-a563-e18f0d39c663_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!V2IE!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9c0ad105-cd99-46d3-a563-e18f0d39c663_1456x1048.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!V2IE!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9c0ad105-cd99-46d3-a563-e18f0d39c663_1456x1048.jpeg 848w, 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A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #25, Challenge Day #71</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Missed Connections]]></title><description><![CDATA[Looking for Naomi's Gate A-4.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 05 Jun 2026 13:02:56 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!o2Uh!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9f0f3238-b78e-49b1-99ee-215d3c10970c_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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into another wait for maintenance<br>turns into another night in D.C.</p><p>The second unplanned night<br>for the couple behind me<br>trying to get home from Europe.</p><p>As we queue for rebooking and hotel vouchers,<br>I&#8217;m missing Naomi&#8217;s Gate A-4.</p><p>I&#8217;d love to help a mother in distress.<br>Not that my limited Spanish or Farsi would have gone far.</p><p>And there are no shared cookies.<br></p><p>Or shared connections.</p><p>Almost every one of us:<br>headphones over ears,<br>faces in screens</p><p>regardless of whether<br>we have travel companions.</p><p>We&#8217;re in the airport<br>but already gone.</p><p>Is Naomi&#8217;s Gate A-4 in Albuquerque<br>just a relic of another age,<br>before iPhones tethered us to the world?</p><p>Maybe.</p><p>But even with all of the delays, long lines<br>and staff that should already be home,</p><p>I don&#8217;t hear any raised voices<br>or see any angry looks.</p><p>Not so much as a pair of rolled eyes.<br>From passengers or crews.</p><p>Just understanding and patience.</p><p>Only kindness.</p><p>Not everything is lost.</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>Naomi Shihab Nye&#8217;s &#8220;<a href="https://poets.org/poem/gate-4">Gate A-4</a>&#8221; is a piece about an unexpected moment of human connection in an Albuquerque airport. It&#8217;s well worth reading. And re-reading. As is her &#8220;<a href="https://poets.org/poem/kindness">Kindness</a>,&#8221; referenced here and in my &#8220;<a href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love">Only Love</a>&#8221; piece.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/missed-connections/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. 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Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6><strong>Post #24, Challenge Day #79</strong></h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Friends with Benefits]]></title><description><![CDATA[A friend hears the same story &#8212; differently.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 02 Jun 2026 13:04:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!u3hy!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F3c975473-69f5-4154-ac2d-b1de925e7b30_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" 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couldn&#8217;t live like that,<br>so unguarded,<br>so reckless.</p><p>Kalyana Mitta,<br>I think that&#8217;s why<br>we&#8217;re friends.</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>Kalyana mitta, Pali for auspicious or admirable friend, is usually translated as &#8220;spiritual friend.&#8221; Not someone who agrees with you. Someone who helps you see what you couldn&#8217;t see on your own.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/friends-with-benefits/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6>Post #23, Challenge Day #9</h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[To Mother and Child on the Flight From Worcester]]></title><description><![CDATA[After retreat, the world felt louder and harsher. Also more tender and more connected.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 31 May 2026 13:03:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!RDAu!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fc7f5ffc4-27d5-487d-862d-06f880ccad7a_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!RDAu!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fc7f5ffc4-27d5-487d-862d-06f880ccad7a_1456x1048.jpeg" 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retreat I&#8217;m returning from,<br>before the overtones of racism<br>on Inauguration Day,<br>on MLK Day,<br>maybe I wouldn&#8217;t have noticed.</p><p>But I noticed.<br>And came back to this again<br>As you sat behind me.</p><p>&#8220;Mom, did you know if you push this button<br>the flight attendant will get you something to drink?&#8221;</p><p>And when we stood to leave.</p><p>&#8220;Wait your turn. We&#8217;ll be out soon enough.&#8221;</p><p>And as we kept passing each other<br>On the long walk out of the terminal.</p><p>Him,<br>but mostly you,<br>carrying a box almost as tall as he is &#8212;<br>a musical instrument<br>and late Christmas gift?</p><p>I wondered:<br>Could I say something<br>without making it weird?<br>Maybe even vaguely threatening?</p><p>I wanted to say:</p><p>Your son brightened my day.<br>His energy, his smile,<br>mostly his child&#8217;s way<br>of narrating life.<br>All presence,<br>mostly joy and wonder.</p><p>It&#8217;s wonderful.<br>I just thought you should know.</p><p>What I probably couldn&#8217;t say in passing,<br>what I really wanted to say:</p><p>I know you may not feel it right now,<br>two hours delayed in the snow,<br>child running to and fro &#8212;<br>down the terminal,<br>up the escalators,<br>almost bolting off the moving sidewalk,<br>well ahead of you,<br>and into the crowds of LaGuardia.</p><p>I see your exhaustion.<br>But I also see your patience.<br>And I see a child secure in your love.</p><p>So I want to say thank you.<br>Thank you just for being a mother and child<br>on their way back from Worcester.</p><p>&#8212;</p><p>But I kept waiting for a better time,<br>a less awkward time,<br>where my intrusion wouldn&#8217;t bring worry<br>or skepticism.</p><p>But we can never know <br>how anything will be received.</p><p>And now I&#8217;ll never know.</p><p>You exited toward baggage claim,<br>into the city that never sleeps &#8212;<br>with a child that I imagine you&#8217;re wondering<br>if he ever will.</p><p>I&#8217;ll never know if a kind word<br>would have been just the thing.<br>The thing to lighten a mom&#8217;s step.<br>The thing to bring a little reassurance.</p><p>Reassurance on MLK Day.<br>Reassurance on Inauguration Day.</p><p>I&#8217;m wondering if you heard the gentlemen<br>in the Worcester airport,<br>walking through the tiny terminal,<br>speaking loudly into his cell phone &#8212;<br>his cell phone on speaker phone.</p><p>I wonder if you heard him say<br>how much he didn&#8217;t like that uppity woman<br>who couldn&#8217;t be bothered to attend the inauguration.</p><p>I hope you didn&#8217;t hear that exchange &#8212;<br>not on MLK Day,<br>not on any day.</p><p>And I wonder if a kind word<br>would have offered some solace.<br>But I&#8217;ll never know.</p><p>I was struggling<br>with that man&#8217;s words,<br>with his very demeanor.</p><p>Or my interpretations of both.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!tstL!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4abe6e4a-31c8-4008-ac7c-52e984242ad2_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>Until then,<br>I was aglow.<br>Alive.<br>Awake.</p><p>During retreat<br>I broke noble silence to look up<br>the words of Thomas Merton<br>that Tara Brach loves to quote.</p><p>&#8220;Then it was as if I suddenly saw<br>the secret beauty of their hearts&#8230;<br>If only they could all see themselves<br>as they really are.<br>If only we could see each other<br>that way all the time.&#8221;</p><p>These words kept coming to mind<br>as I lost myself and found a world.</p><p>&#8220;There would be no more war, no more hatred,<br>no more cruelty, no more greed&#8230;<br>I suppose the big problem would be that<br>we would fall down<br>and worship each other.&#8221;</p><p>And now<br>before I&#8217;d even flown out from<br>the MLK &#8220;Strength to Love&#8221;<br>silent meditation retreat,<br>I&#8217;m struggling to stay present.</p><p>How I miss the inner silence right now.</p><p>That uppity Black woman.</p><p>But that&#8217;s not what he actually said.<br>What was I bringing to this overheard airport conversation?<br>Assumptions.<br>And sides.</p><p>I wasn&#8217;t confronting racism.<br>I was stewing.<br><br>&#8220;Only love<br>can drive out hate.&#8221;</p><p>Am I up to it?</p><p>Come back.<br>Come back to what is.</p><p>I&#8217;m in an airport,<br>overhearing a conversation,<br>caught in my head.</p><p>Come back.<br>Come back to feet on the floor.<br>To this breath. And this one.<br>Come back to presence.</p><p>And then we got on the plane,<br>and you walked down that aisle.<br><em>All</em> presence &#8212;<br>at least your son.</p><p>And it brought me back.<br>Back to a simple smile.<br>Back to simple presence,<br>and the joy it can sometimes bring.</p><p>And that&#8217;s enough.</p><p>So, thank you.</p><p>Now, I&#8217;m back in the LaGuardia Sky Lounge,<br>writing you this letter I&#8217;ll never get to deliver.<br>But still feeling the importance of noticing.</p><p>I know you might not feel any of this right now.<br>I know what it&#8217;s like<br>to just want to get from point A to point B<br>and wish your child would cut down<br>on the narrating and the joyful exuberance<br>and just focus on getting where we&#8217;re going.</p><p>But I also know what it&#8217;s like <br>to look back on those times wistfully,<br>And hope your tween can somehow find a way<br>to touch back into that presence &#8212;<br>that I can.</p><p>Sometimes.<br>Just sometimes.<br>That would be enough.</p><p>And I know that neither you nor he is an object lesson for me,<br>and I won&#8217;t pretend to see the secret beauty of your hearts.</p><p>I know you&#8217;re full human beings,<br>just going about your lives.</p><p>But that,<br>just that,<br>is amazing and wonderful.</p><p>So, thank you.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Meca!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F76f975da-03b2-433c-aba1-149683db6607_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Meca!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F76f975da-03b2-433c-aba1-149683db6607_1456x1048.jpeg 424w, 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Come back to what is.</em></figcaption></figure></div><div><hr></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><blockquote><p>I wrote the <a href="https://medium.com/@timreganporter/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight-from-worcester-60e2ec4845b8">original version</a> of this while returning from my first ever silent retreat. I came home feeling unusually open. Porous, almost. Beauty felt sharper. So did ugliness.</p><p>What surprised me most was how quickly mindfulness became less about silence and meditation halls and more about airports, overheard conversations, projection, judgment, tenderness, and trying to come back to presence in the middle of ordinary life.</p></blockquote><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/to-mother-and-child-on-the-flight/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6>Post #22, Before my daily poem challenge.</h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Only Love]]></title><description><![CDATA[The roots run deeper than we think.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2026 13:03:31 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!tzfs!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F569c8a22-59db-4c64-af39-a34a3e590609_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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feel<br>for the taste of you<br>and the taste of chocolate<br>spring from the same taproot.</p><p>Maybe<br>it&#8217;s the same love driving<br>the slow dance,<br>the errands we run for each other,<br>and the march of protest.</p><p>Beneath every ache<br>every sorrow<br>every argument<br>every reconciliation<br>every estrangement<br>every kind act<br>every harmful act</p><p>Love is pushing through<br>the cracks in our world.</p><p>It&#8217;s hidden, distorted,<br>sometimes misguided.</p><p>Look closer.</p><p>Love is not only the shoot pushing through,<br>not only the blossom blooming.</p><p>Love is dirt and fertilizer,<br>is compost heat<br>breaking things down,<br>feeding the roots,</p><p>bringing growth.</p><div class="preformatted-block" data-component-name="PreformattedTextBlockToDOM"><label class="hide-text" contenteditable="false">Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published</label><pre class="text">
     <em>Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
     only kindness that ties your shoes
     and sends you out into the day
     &#8212;Naomi Shihab Nye, &#8220;Kindness&#8221;</em></pre></div><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/only-love/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><div><hr></div><blockquote><p>I care deeply about the damage we are doing to each other and to the planet. But increasingly, I find myself uninterested in arguments that sort the world neatly into good and bad.</p><p>When I can see beneath the distortions &#8212; trauma, protection, upbringing, ideology &#8212; and glimpse the love underneath, possibilities for healing begin to appear. Without that, I have trouble seeing any paths forward.</p><p>If only I could see it more often and more clearly.</p></blockquote><div class="callout-block" data-callout="true"><p><em>If this resonates, I&#8217;d love to hear from you. A comment, a share, or even just a like goes a long way. Writing into the void is its own practice, but knowing the work lands makes it easier to keep showing up.</em></p></div><h6>Post #21, Challenge Day #35</h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Hungry Ghosts]]></title><description><![CDATA[The projections are perfect. The hunger remains.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/hungry-ghosts</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/hungry-ghosts</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 26 May 2026 13:03:41 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GfRF!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7dc24bf6-5bb2-45d6-b0e6-e4887d7afed7_576x1024.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Every time<br>that &#8220;I Have Nothing&#8221; tribute<br>scrolls onto my screen,<br>I stop and watch<br>even though I dislike half the song.</p><p>Christina and Whitney.<br>Those voices.<br>Almost enough<br>to balance the scales<br>against all the ugliness<br>pervading the world.</p><p>Hologram Whitney <br>also reminds me<br>whatever I&#8217;m chasing<br>won&#8217;t vanquish<br>my hungry ghosts either.</p><p>Not</p><p>having the world&#8217;s most transcendent voice,<br>being the world&#8217;s richest man or its best golfer, <br>building the world&#8217;s largest retailer,<br>getting elected leader of the free world,<br>topping the New York Times bestseller list,<br>winning every popularity contest,<br>sculpting the perfect body,<br>even finishing my to-do list.</p><p>Not even the selfless service of a Mother Teresa<br>staves off the dark night of the soul.</p><p>Oh, I&#8217;ll still keep trying.<br>And I&#8217;ll keep scrolling through <br>those perfect projections.</p><p>But Whitney reminds me<br>to stop<br>and look at <br>what I have.</p><div id="tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7277263701051297056%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd" class="tiktok-wrap outer" 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href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold/video/7277263701051297056" target="_blank"><img class="tiktok thumbnail" src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GfRF!,w_640,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7dc24bf6-5bb2-45d6-b0e6-e4887d7afed7_576x1024.jpeg" style="background-image: url(https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GfRF!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F7dc24bf6-5bb2-45d6-b0e6-e4887d7afed7_576x1024.jpeg);"></a><div class="content"><a class="author" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold" target="_blank">@voicesofgold</a><a class="title" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@voicesofgold/video/7277263701051297056" target="_blank">Christina was for sure the perfect choice for this tribute!&#128153;&#128330;&#65039; #whitneyhouston #christinaaguilera #xtina #thevoice </a></div></div><div class="fallback-failure" id="fallback-failure-tiktok-iframe?media=1&amp;app=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40voicesofgold%2Fvideo%2F7277263701051297056%3Flang%3Den&amp;key=e27c740634285c9ddc20db64f73358dd"><div class="error-content"><img class="error-icon" src="https://substackcdn.com//img/alert-circle.svg">Tiktok failed to load.<br><br>Enable 3rd party cookies or use another browser</div></div></div><div><hr></div><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p>The hungry ghosts are never finally satisfied.<br>But longing remains.<br>Beauty still matters.<br>It&#8217;s all in how we hold them.</p><p class="button-wrapper" 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In (Part 2)]]></title><description><![CDATA[I learned how to leave long before I learned how to stay.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in-part-2</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in-part-2</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 24 May 2026 13:02:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vGPM!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8577c8df-f1df-4351-be1f-c389c055e405_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The house we lived in<br>was not one house.</p><p>Five houses<br>five cities<br>across three states<br>by my fifth birthday.</p><p>The pace slowed down then.<br>Only three more <br>houses and cities<br>through high school.</p><p>I got used to<br>saying goodbye.</p><p>To family,<br>including two sets of greats,<br>six aunts and uncles,<br>cousins lost track of.<br>All six-to-seven hundred miles away.</p><p>To neighbors,<br>to teachers,<br>to friends <br>from school and church.</p><p>To friends <br>from sleep-away church camps<br>I attended religiously<br>since I was in elementary school.</p><p>To friends<br>from state choirs, <br>quiz teams,<br>Governor&#8217;s Honors.</p><p>Goodbyes became a monthly routine.</p><p>I also had to say<br>lasting goodbyes.</p><p>Death was routine.</p><p>Congregants Dad buried.</p><p>Two great-grandparents<br>and three grandparents<br>before I&#8217;d turned thirteen.</p><p>Pets.<br>So many pets.</p><p>A couple of dogs who ran away.</p><p>Many cats and dogs<br>succumbing to old age.</p><p>A baby chick,<br>freshly hatched,<br>underneath the weight<br>of my toddler body.</p><p>One dog who hung himself<br>on a choke collar left on in the car.<br>I wasn&#8217;t yet in preschool.</p><p>In third grade,<br>I went home early, feeling &#8220;sick.&#8221;</p><p>A Lhasa Apso from the school neighborhood<br>ran across the street to greet me.</p><p>A car hit him.</p><p>We rushed him to the vet,<br>but he died the next day.</p><p>I was truly sick then.</p><p>Around sixth grade,<br>a Saint Bernard puppy <br>appeared in our basement,<br>slipping through the gate<br>our dogs had escaped through.</p><p>He slept inside <br>my headboard cupboard.</p><p>I knew that wouldn&#8217;t last.</p><p>The worms got him<br>before his first vet appointment.</p><p>In high school,<br>my brother discovered the pelt<br>of one of Dad&#8217;s rabbits<br>in the roadside trashcan<br>after we&#8217;d been fed<br>this strange &#8220;chicken&#8221; dish.</p><p>Somehow,<br>I never got used to <br>saying goodbye.</p><p>It always felt like a little death.</p><p>I fought impermanence with all I had.</p><p>Eventually,<br>I stopped attaching.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in-part-2?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in-part-2?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p>It&#8217;s taken me decades to realize there&#8217;s no protection from impermanence.</p><p>And I&#8217;m not sure I want there to be.</p><p></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in-part-2/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" 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Some are for living.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/the-house-we-lived-in</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2026 13:03:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!qweB!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5f04e5d5-ac17-46db-84a8-f239e7a59188_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The house was lived in.<br>Just what you&#8217;d expect <br>with two young boys,<br>two working parents,<br>and just enough income<br>to hold it together.</p><p>Our home was a castle.<br>Surrounded by a moat of<br>if not quite shame <br>then embarrassment.</p><p>Fast food remnants <br>peeking out of the trash can.<br>The bedrooms never quite tidy.<br>The lawn, unmanicured.</p><p>The living room, filled<br>with mismatched second-hand furniture.<br>But not the room<br>reserved for company.</p><p>We felt<br>the house we lived in <br>was maybe not quite what you&#8217;d expect<br>of community pillars.</p><p>Having guests over<br>even just kids<br>was an ordeal.</p><p>All hands on deck.<br>Shoving as much as we could<br>into closets.<br>The smell of Pledge<br>masking the smell of<br>living.</p><p>So we spent more time at friends&#8217; houses<br>where we were too busy living<br>to notice how lived-in their houses were.</p><p>And how did mom<br>never notice how miserable<br>we all were, even her,<br>when we visited Sister Ida&#8217;s showroom house?</p><p>It was perfect.<br>And no one wanted to be there.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" 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So is gravity.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 19 May 2026 13:03:36 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!mYuj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4f3f7d9a-bbc7-4d43-b76d-5895f8c99f25_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;I should be beyond this.&#8221;</p><p>As if the landscape<br>slants in one direction<br>and we know our destination.</p><p>As if doubts were forever vanquished<br>to never leave room for questioning<br>love, capacity, the journey.</p><p>As if illness and sleepiness<br>don&#8217;t drain whatever willpower<br>keeps old patterns at bay.</p><p>As if low blood sugar<br>or that thing my coworker said<br>or the sudden onset of a memory<br>of words left unsaid<br>won&#8217;t throw anyone off their game<br>and leave them stumbling,<br>forgetting themselves.</p><p>&#8220;I should be beyond this&#8221;</p><p>is shame&#8217;s curtain of delusion<br>hiding both real progress<br>and its ephemeral nature.</p><p>Then shame tells you it was pride<br>to ever think that.</p><p>Damned if you do,<br>damned if you don&#8217;t.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!mYuj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4f3f7d9a-bbc7-4d43-b76d-5895f8c99f25_1456x1048.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" 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It&#8217;s permanence.</p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Share&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email&utm_content=share&action=share"><span>Share</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe now&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/subscribe?"><span>Subscribe now</span></a></p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this/comments&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Leave a comment&quot;,&quot;action&quot;:null,&quot;class&quot;:null}" data-component-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/i-should-be-beyond-this/comments"><span>Leave a comment</span></a></p><h6>Post #17, Challenge Day #37</h6>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Claws, A True Story]]></title><description><![CDATA[Dangerous.]]></description><link>https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/claws-a-true-story</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://thelongunbecoming.timreganporter.com/p/claws-a-true-story</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Tim Regan-Porter]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 17 May 2026 16:54:30 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vA0W!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fc6261bb3-8ae1-44b2-9b28-2cc717bbb136_1456x1048.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Ow! Hermione!&#8221;</p><p>Claws interrupted my meditation.<br>And then they got stuck.</p><p>First, the left claws.<br>Then, the right<br>in a desperate attempt <br>to free the left.</p><p>Funny, I thought.<br>It&#8217;s usually Adora <br>who gets stuck.<br>She&#8217;s not very good<br>at being<br>a cat.</p><p>Except, I wasn&#8217;t meditating.</p><p>I was on my knees<br>reaching under the bed,<br>my invitingly stockinged feet<br>exposed.</p><p>Except I wasn&#8217;t on my knees.</p><p>I&#8217;d Zoomed into the morning meditation<br>and decided to meditate<br>lying down<br>after a long evening<br>of air travel.</p><p>Dangerous.</p><p>I woke up,<br>looked<br>over at my meditation bench,<br>and remembered<br>Adora had knocked<br>my mindfulness bell<br>off its cushion<br>two minutes into my sit.<br>Or lie.</p><p>When I woke,<br>I didn&#8217;t hear echoes<br>of a rebuke from<br>Gethsemane.<br>I heard a faint chuckle.</p><p>I went back<br>to meditating.</p><div 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